HAPPINESS IS HOMEMADE

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Tis a saturday night, you are sitting all alone in darkness feeling wrecked just because you were not able to hang out with your friends aur meet someone you waited for so long.
In a sense lets say you have considered someone as a tool for your happiness. You place an enormous amount of pressure on him to perfectly handle all your difficulties and supply things that are missing in your life.
But remember you yourself are the right toolbox that can "fix" what isn't working. That person is not a tool. He is a whole person with his own emotions, struggles, goals, hopes and dreams. Reducing him to a tool for your happiness is objectification and it limits the growth and deepening of your relationship.
It is unfair to expect someone to help you become a whole person. 
More importantly, we already have everything we need within us to live our best life; we need not look outside ourselves or to anyone else.
You cannot wait around for anyone else to bring happiness and excitement to your life. You have to go out there and create it! You also cannot expect one person to take away your loneliness.

Maybe because you are too shy to interact with multiple people and have less social intercation, you are susceptible to feel isolated. There will be so many days when you cannot count on your friends to pick you up, take you out or invite you for a fun event. You may feel disappointed or angry at these times. But keeping yourself happy is your responsibility and you have to start taking accountability for the same.
Say "Yes" to different activities and invitations. Make a catch with things that make you happy. Start getting out of your comfort zone and outside of the overly introverted bubble that keeps you lonely.
Once you have gathered yourslef, you need not depend on anyone.
Even if your friends cancel a plan or choose to hang out with others, it wont break your heart. You are a whole person now.

"If she doesn't go to this event with me tonight, I'm going to be sad and won't go at all"
"If they don't invite me to the party on Friday,my night will be ruined"
If you say these things often or fight with yourself thinking of such things , give yourself a reminder that you are letting someone else's actions control you.

Do you put your power in other people’s hands? Will someone canceling plans or doing something unexpected wreck your day, or will you empower yourself to create your own happiness?
Even if someone changes plans or cannot go to a fun event with you, if it will bring you happiness, go anyway! Do not allow the actions of others to control your actions or emotions. Reclaim your power.

To taste the best muffins of your life, you need to bake them yourself!!


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